“Silence is one of the great arts of conversation”……-Cicero
As per definition silence is……..’ complete absence of sound.’ Silence is also a metaphor to any absence of communication or hearing. It’s a span of time without speech or noise. The most important organ of any conversation is the silence. Silence can serve many objectives in a conversation
There are few whereabouts where silence is absolutely mandatory. A couple of such places include classrooms……..examination halls……..conferences……..meeting……..operation theaters……movie theaters………Any kind of sound in these places is looked upon with disgrace and is considered unethical.
“Silence is a source of great strength.”…………and it can be expressed in many moments and can be categorized into many forms……..silence during meditation…silence of death…..silence to hide our feelings………silence when you are at lack of words…..because…..”Silence itself speaks a lot!!”
Meditation is all about silence. Silence provides incomparable spirit and vigor to a person like no other energy source. It has the intensity to get people to think and to act, it can help slow down the mind, and it is a powerful collaborator in counseling and life coaching. It’s rightly said……….”Silence is a power only in the hands of enlightened minds, but weakness in the mind of helpless persons” Silence motivates our thoughts and helps them to focus inwards and allows us to gain the power we need to refuel our minds. Our ego is temporarily disposed off and we are able to appreciate the beauty of the world around us. When there is silence there is time for introspection and to allow our true self to speak not the ego or the conscious mind, but the true self connected to the flow of energy around us…………..
Silence of death is another form of silence we often hear about, but rarely understand. Literally, it means when one is dead…..that person is going to be silent forever…..he/she will never speak…..further, it may mean that there’ll be no sound against injustice or anything ……….from that person (or people).
“alfaaz ki kami hai……..dil me nami hai…………madhoshi me hai saara alam…..humare zazbat hai gumnaam rahoon par…..baatein karrahi hai bas khamoshi..bas khamoshi..”…..Silence serves the most common weapon to us which aids us to hide our feelings…..Such silence speaks volumes….”Silence speaks when words can’t.” One may agree to………’Being silent is a great way to let someone know they did something wrong’…….. Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence……time for listening….time of speaking words aloud..etc.. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. As Sir George Bernard Shaw nicely framed…..”Silence is the most perfect expression of scorn……”
There are many situations in our day to day lives which renders us speechless. Muhammad Ali has beautifully put it into words…….”Silence is golden when you can’t think of a good answer. Having nothing to say, doesn’t mean that you can say nothing, necessarily. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Silence is loud and speaks a library full of possibilities, you are just not authorized to what it is that people are assuming you are saying through the silence. By saying nothing at all, you leave your audience in a most amateurish dilemma. Silence can be very ‘dynamic’. But you just can’t open your mouth …….to fill silence……” It is better to be silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt………”- Abraham Lincoln.”
People are allergic to silence and simply tries to avoid it the way nature abhors a vacuum and rush to fill it with the same zeal. The trouble with silence is that many people feel the need to fill the abandoned zone of silence with Music, TV, stupid talks, needless chatter, or with noise of some kind. Silence can be bewildering and can make people feel uncomfortable and alone. Speechless and silent you’re not sure how to fill those empty moments. Filling awkward silences is an art and skill every person wants to master; it’s something that every person wonders about; at one time or other and it’s surely something that you can learn to overcome. Some ways to fill awkward silences are listed below……..
A. Recognize the occasion of silence.
B. Use distractions to break silence in a conversation and end the awkward topic.
C. Come up with a new interesting topic and try to be witty and humorous as much as possible; while discussing it.
D. Compliment something or someone………”Wow…….that’s wonderful” or “what a hilarious person she is….”
E. Talk about something weird.
F. Avoid questions with blunt answers of ‘yes’ and ‘no’
These are some ways which may prove to be helpful when you want to break those hollow moments……but at times silence is the need of the hour. Mother Teresa has gracefully assembled these words………..which holds to be true……..”We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature — trees, flowers, grass — grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence. We need silence to be able to touch souls………….” and “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends…………” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Written by – Dr Chandini Gupta
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