No sooner pregnancy test shows positive, both wife and husband ask each other…………’ARE WE PREPARED FOR A BABY ?? CAN WE…….. ?? ‘
Today , mommy of a 5 month old , I’m very happy and pleased to be a mother. Being a MOTHER is the most pleasurable thing in the world. And I’m sure every mom will agree with me. It’s the most biggest achievement in a women’s life. If anyone hears me saying all this…….undoubtedly, people would think that I WAS………prepared to be a mom. But, WAS I?? REALLY ?? Or My Husband……..A FATHER ??
We just decided to go ahead with the flow of time, and things occurred eventually. Every day……..every month poised their own challenges . But, today, smile of our child justifies our decision completely and trust me, its one of the most rewarding decisions of life. Today, we both are on cloud 9, and are very happy and proud parents.
Starting a family is a big deal. Its an exciting and adventurous journey with it’s twists and turns……but can’t deny……at times tiring also. It’s something that require a lots of austerity.
You newly weds , might be thinking, yet again ‘another pregnancy purann !!’
I beg your pardon, but it’s not.
Whether to start with a family or not, should entirely be your and your spouse decision. And this decision of yours should not be influenced by any thing or any person or any statement…….the most common being……’You already married since 2 years………….and haven’t started a family yet!! OMG!! BABY KARLO AND THEN BE FREE!!’
…. The clarity of your vision will define your present and future. So, just chillax……….and think….open-minded……..about your priorities and what you want from life!! Think on your feet!!
It’s one of the frequent matters discussed after marriage. Most young couples find this decision to be the toughest and demanding…………and they tend to get biased by many factors . Every couple’s opinion is based on different factors, which can’t be judged. But many at times, it’s based on fear…………..and they give themselves some ‘lame excuses’ (which they call logic) to overshadow it and deprive themselves the warmth of parenthood.
Here, I have tried to list a few of those “logic’s” ,i.e.,excuses :
i. IS THERE A NEED OF KID IN OUR RELATION?? IT WON’T REMAIN THE SAME ANYMORE!!
That’s the most common one. Usually, majority of couples feel that. They don’t find any space for a baby in the initial phase of their journey ,together. They give themselves the logic that once a baby is born…there personal life will no longer be the same .
ii. IT’S ONLY BECAUSE OUR PARENTS R PRESSING??
‘Darling I don’t want to go for a baby for the sake of our parents only. I want it to be our wish and our decision.’ Yes!! that’s another logic…i.e. excuse ,which most often husband and wife give each other, to avoid the responsibility of a family.
iii. INSTABILITY !!
Now that’s a big reason and a solid one too. But is it logical ?? It’s very much logical and wise to think about the Stability……….be it Financial……Emotional……Individual…….Social……or the Stability of the Relation. But as one of our renowned politician says “……….is a state of mind”. Following his words, it won’t be wrong to say…….’ STABILITY IS A STATE OF MIND!! ‘ These words says it all. It’s all in the mind. It’s how every couple perceive things . When we think we should be……..WE ARE !! It’s human nature…….to mold oneself according to the need of the hour.So , worry not!
iv. ARE WE NOT VERY YOUNG AND IMMATURE, TO BE PARENTS ??
This excuse is actually a limit; which a husband and wife give to each other . I’d like to know, how can people be young and immature and married at the same time??
v. WHAT MY FRIEND WILL THINK??
Often, family making decision of every couple is influenced by …..’what will others say and think…’ Oh really!! Guys, this is your life and you want to be and ONLY you should be the decision maker in your life. None married couple wants to be eccentric in their friend circle.
vi. HOW MUCH DO WE KNOW ABOUT RAISING KIDS??
Most couples get anxious and worry about it and its very much obvious. What will be good for their baby…….the do’s and don’t of parenthood is very much logical. Their concerns are the basis of apprehensions. But let me remind u all, nature has THE CURE FOR EVERYTHING. It gives full nine months to get prepared and research on upbringing of tiny tots.
vii. ISN’T OUR HOUSE TOO SMALL??
A very naive excuse, but true. Yes!! the area and location of the house matters; but not to the extent that the decision of pregnancy needs to get biased by it.
So, rethink over the thought; which way you are taking your life.
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